Although I was always pretty fairly well versed in blowjobs since my high school days, it was only until my late twenties did I actually try including deep throating in my blowjob routines. And even though just about all of my sexual partners praised me for my blowjob skills even without any deep throating, I came to learn just how much of an asset deep throating truly was in giving your man the best blowjob possible. Here is my story.

First some background on my blowjob expertise before learning how to deep throat. I started giving head as early as freshman year of high school, at friend’s houses most of the time, but also occasionally in their car at night (for the men that had their licenses already). I learned most of my blowjob skills from watching porn, but back then, most of the porn that I did watch was pretty vanilla. The woman would lick up and down the shaft, use their hands to stroke their cocks in rhythm with their mouths sucking on it, and keeping their eyes either fixated down on his cock or up at his eyes. Overall, they were actually really nice blowjobs, proven by the fact that by imitating them I was able to satisfy most boys that I gave head to.

But the problem was that the vibe that came off of these women that I was learning blowjobs from was one of conventional sexiness. Deep throating on the other hand is not your typical version of sexiness by any means. You are gagging and making uncontrollable noises in the back of your throat, and potentially tearing up as well. So while I was learning how to give better than adequate blowjobs, I was missing out on an entire aspect of blowjobs that could have taken my skills to another level.

This all changed in college when I met someone at a party and we took things back to my place for some late night fun. As you probably have guessed, it led to us having oral sex (for those wondering, we didn’t have any sexual intercourse that night, for whatever that’s worth). Anyway, after he ate me out a bit, I offered to give him some head to return the favor. Everything was gone as normal, giving head with my usual techniques which led my hookup partner to start moaning pretty loudly. And just a few moments after that is when he placed his hands behind my head and pushed my face down into his crotch area, thereby forcing me to deep throat for the first time.

Within a few seconds, I popped my head up instinctively due to the unnatural feeling of having something lodged up my throat. He asked me what was wrong and I simply told him that I’ve never done that before. He then basically asked me if I was talking about “deep throating”, and based on my understanding of the words “deep” and “throat” I confirmed to him that yes, that was what I was talking about. Luckily he did not force the issue that night, but he made it pretty clear from his body language that he was disappointed.

So a few days later, I looked into what deep throating was and I quickly realized what I was missing. All in all, I learned that although the actual act of deep throating is not conventionally sexy, it definitely is sexy in the context of oral sex for a few reasons. First off, the sound you make when you are gagging and choking appeals to guys for various physical and psychological reasons, which is actually contrary to what most women think. The tears that may start forming while having your entire mouth stuffed with cock also makes the (crying) woman appear helpless to the dominant man in a similar fashion. And what brings it all together is simply the fact that you as the woman are actually agreeing to go the extra mile to give him this unique sensation, which comes at the price of your own comfort. In other words, the very fact that you are being a naughty girl willing to deep throat his hard cock makes you hotter.

With that newfound knowledge, I decided to try it again with my next hookup buddy. And when that time came, I was totally ready. This time however, since I initiated the deep throating, I made sure to take it extra slow and steady. What I noticed almost immediately was that by angling my throat and essentially my entire upper body properly, I could actually get a few extra inches of cock inside of me. And as a result of getting just about all of his cock deep inside of my throat, I literally couldn’t help but gag and tear up. However, every time I hit the point of feeling like throwing up, I seamlessly pulled back and gave myself time to recover, all the while stroking his cock with my hands to keep him rock hard.

Strangely enough though, I did not take long before I was ready to go back at it – just a few seconds at a time. And best of all was the fact that I could tell that he absolutely loved every time I deep throated him, so much more than the rest of the blowjob itself. And this behavior occurred with just about every guy I’ve deep throated since my first (planned) deep throat. I realized that the uncomfortable nature of blowjobs was more in my head than anything. Once I learned to look past the gagging and the tearing up and focus more on the fact that deep throating was almost a guaranteed way to please my man, I couldn’t stop doing it. To this day, almost every time I give Seth head, it involves some degree of deep throating, simply because it is guarantees that his overall pleasure from my blowjob amps up immensely. Every. Single. Time.