Ever since watching the very first “Fifty Shades of Grey” film in theaters, I have been increasingly intrigued with the concept of bondage during sex. However, I was not interested in some of the intense bondage that Christian Grey used on Anastasia Steele in the movie (i.e. having all four limbs tied up or whipping her until her bottom was bright red). Having said that though, I did start trying some bondage-like concepts over the past few months with Seth as a way to spice up sex for both of us. Here is how it went.

To start, the reason I got so intrigued with bondage in the first place was simply because it looked like a great way to amplify the pleasure sensations. Without having the power to control how you get stimulated forces you to simply live in the moment and take whatever comes your way, at least to a certain extent, and that sense of helplessness is quite kinky and makes every sensation more powerful and pronounced. Along the same lines, giving your man full control over your body is a huge turn-on for him as well, as Seth can definitely attest to.

One of the first bondage-like experiences I engaged in was using a simple sleep mask to blindfold myself. Other than that simple piece of fabric over my eyes, we had sex just like we would normally. This use of a blindfold really made me much more aware of all of the tactile sensations around me. Even just the simple touch of Seth caressing my neck caught me off guard and as a result turned me on so much, simply because I didn’t know when Seth would touch me next, and perhaps more importantly, didn’t know where he would touch me. This led to some extremely sensual foreplay, where literally running Seth’s fingers down my legs and stomach gave me amazing chills. And when Seth finally entered me, it almost caused me to orgasm simply due to the huge rush of sexual stimulation entering me all at once. All in all, simply blindfolding myself was amazing, especially with regards to foreplay.

Another night a few days later, we experimented with some cheap handcuffs that we bought online, and we imitated a scene from one of the movies in which Ana was handcuffed to the top of the bed with her arms outstretched over her head. Note that I didn’t include the blindfold this time, simply to keep the different forms of bondage separate from one another, in order to more accurately determine how each of them appealed to me on their own.

In this “position” I was actually unable to stimulate myself on my own, which wasn’t the case with the blindfold. Even though I love touching my nipples and even my vagina while getting intimate with Seth, with the handcuffs, I literally couldn’t do anything other than squirm around using my hips to help guide Seth along. If I wanted my nipples played with, I had to ask Seth nicely, and more often than not, he obliged. That sense of dominance was really felt here, since all the sexual pleasure that I wanted needed to go through Seth and so he literally controlled my sexual satisfaction from start to finish. Seth even went as far as kneeling in front of my face and forcing me to suck his dick as I laid there helpless on our bed, further emphasizing his dominance over me.

Soon after that sexual encounter, we took it a step further, using some bungee cords lying in our garage to tie myself up in a new way. This time, my legs were pinned up against my upper body, accomplished by wrapping the bungee cords around my upper body and thighs. The lower portion of my legs were free to extend up towards my head or bend back down over my thighs, but my midsection as a whole were locked in place (note that my hands this time were free to do whatever they pleased).

This position was really only useful for one thing, but it turned out to be very useful in that regard – it was basically the perfect sex position for Seth to give me deep vaginal penetration. You see, with your knees brought up to your chest and face area, your vagina gets put into an angle where you can get penetrated much more deeply. And while you can obviously create this sort of sensation without the use of bondage, by tying myself up, I was left helpless to Seth’s deep vaginal penetrations. And it felt awesome. Not only the sensation itself, but the mental aspect of it as well, knowing that I couldn’t stop this immense pleasure even if I wanted to.

Those are the three main forms of bondage that I engage in on a semi-regular basis. And after trying all three for the first time on their own, I experimented combining the various elements and as you probably would have guessed, combining the various forms of bondage only makes things better! You feel even less in command of the situation and feel even more dominated by your man, and this really plays into the mental aspect of bondage (although there is still a fairly significant physical aspect to it as well). Although I definitely wouldn’t recommend using bondage all the time, mixing it into your sex life from time to time is an absolutely great way to unleash your kinkiest fantasies in a safe and ultimately highly satisfying way!